Mom’s judging other moms is something that we are all guilty of at one point or another. I have no problem admitting that. But what happens when a mom judges a child?
I knew bullying and girl drama was inevitable with two tween girls. It was only a matter of time before it happened. We teach our girls to be kind and try to include everyone. But what happens when a child your daughters play with almost every single day after school invites one of them to his birthday party and not the other one? Believe me I understand a 5th grader doesn’t want a 3rd grader at their birthday party. But this party was a small get together on a Wednesday evening after school, after they had all already been playing outside together riding their bikes. I assumed both of my daughters were invited, I mean wouldn’t you? When I saw one of them riding home and the other was nowhere in sight I thought something seemed odd.
Brynna came home around 5:00pm alone. We asked her why she wasn’t at the party. Her response “I wasn’t invited because his mom said I’m annoying”….wait what?! Now let me make this perfectly clear. My eight year old may very well be annoying, but another mom. A mom who I don’t even know is NOT going to call my child annoying. How hurtful for my daughter to be excluded because a grown women thinks she is annoying.
Listen I know she can be annoying. I do live with her after all. She is loud, wears crazy clothes, is extremely enthusiastic, and loves to sing whenever possible. She doesn’t take no for an answer very easily and can cry at the drop of a hat. But, my annoying child is also kind, she has one of the kindest hearts of any child. She’s happy and extremely over the top. She is always smiling and she will do anything for anyone. She is awesome and pretty much the coolest 8-year-old I have ever met. I’m not just saying that because I’m her mom either. She really is a cool kid.
Maybe next time this mom will see my daughter playing with her son and take a minute to get to know her. Maybe just maybe she will be able to appreciate or even like that amazing little girl.
I totally understand that not everyone can throw a birthday bash for the whole neighborhood. I get it. It wasn’t the party, it was the message that she was sending. That it was ok to not invite my daughter because “she was annoying.”